…Queen of the world.
That was my answer at 4 years old and suffice to say I have not yet achieved my ultimate goal by the age of 30, but never say never!!
I recently blasted the world of Twitter and Facebook to find out what words of wisdom you will give your children to guide them through life. From appreciating what they have to retaining their individuality and independence to learning to budget and seeing the world, questioning your teachers to living out your dreams, the parents who responded are developing a positive future generation. One of my favourite responses was treat all women like princesses (because it shows that I raised my sons properly).
On the topic of princesses (and princes) one of my biggest tips that I will pass on to my children is to love someone like they show us to in fairy tales. We live in a society where break ups and multiple marriages are the norm, where children can be subjected to the latest “friend” without the parent batting an eyelid and this culture that we are creating makes me sad to think that love – genuine love – could become obsolete.
There is no better feeling in the world than that overwhelming feeling of being in love. The intensity of the butterflies colliding in one’s stomach, the fleeting glances that warm you up from your toes to the end of your fingers, those stolen kisses that last minutes but feel like time has stopped especially for you to savour the moment. Now I’m not naive nor delusional, and I am fully aware that with love comes heartbreak (in one form or another) from the first argument to the break up, but both love and heartbreak are inevitable in life and helps structure your character. Having been through the sort of love that took my breath away and resulted in the most crushing pain I thought I could imagine (first love) I come equipped to pass on my knowledge to my daughter when that inevitable day arises, and I am proof, as are the majority of adults, that you can get through it because there is something waiting for us on the other side.
There is something quite comforting knowing that in 16 years time I will be in a position to share my experiences with Evie and hopefully be seen as someone she can confide in (as opposed to me being seen as ‘out dated’ and in the dramatic world of teenage girls someone who could never understand the intensity of her feelings – that was me once upon a time!!)
The other big one I want her to grasp with both hands (as with any other children I may have) is to dream big and go for it without fear of thinking they’re not good enough. I remember when I graduated I wanted to go to London and be a TV presenter (it could’ve been me on the sofa with Phil) but I was told to be realistic and I ended up in the Civil Service, so when the chance came up 18 months ago to become an International Trade Policy Advisor for the UK (ok not as stylish but outlooks change as you get older) I took a huge risk (I was not qualified in the slightest) and it paid off. Proof that if you want something enough you can make it yours. So if any of my children tell me at the tender age of 4 that they too want to rule the world who am I to get in their way?? I’ll be armed ready with the tools to help them (my special designer ‘I rule the world’ heels are tucked away ready for their debut on the world stage…)